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Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Out of sight, out of mind.

This is another example of a pair of contradicting proverbs.

I am pretty sure you have heard of the saying that goes “absence makes the heart grow fonder“. It would mean that some time apart from seeing someone or something can only make you want him/her/it more and more. Often used in relationships, one would say that being way too close or attached is not a good thing. So it is best to keep a little distance apart to make the other want you more.

In a case of a long distance relationship (This is first thing that comes to my mind when I think of this proverb), one would be convinced that the distance is healthy as it will only make one yearn for the other more. Of course, it solely depends on the individual and this cannot be true to everyone.

On the contrary, there is also another common proverb that says “out of sight, out of mind“. This one contradicts the first proverb by saying that once a person is not in touch with us anymore anymore, we tend to forget about him/her and will move on.

In the same case of a long distance relationship, as the other half would be far away, it becomes hard to stay connected. Although there are plenty of cutting edge technology these days, the problem of different time zones arises especially if he/she is the other side of the world.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder and Out of sight, out of mind certainly do contradict each other. Why, you may ask. In my opinion, these two proverbs exist to suit the needs of a situation. Sometimes, it fits a certain event of a person. Sometimes, it fits another event of another person.

So, what do YOU think?